Episode Description Ever try to control your partner? How’s that working for you? It’s never worked well for me and if I ever figure out how to do that, I’d be a gazillionaire. No… that’s not true. I wouldn’t tell anyone how to control someone else, because I don’t believe we should try to control […]

Episode Description Just like you’d want to review your job performance or a student’s progress, you need to review your marriage. Think of it as a check-up. Otherwise, how do you know what’s working and what’s not, if you don’t review it? In this episode, I share a three-step process to help you take a […]

Episode Description Why this podcast and why am I the one doing it?When a marriage or a long-term relationship ends, we don’t always clear the muck before we jump into the next… and that can be hard on our new relationship, causing it to be even more likely to fail.In this welcome episode, I share […]

Episode Description What most of us were taught about relationships doesn’t always work… and that’s why the divorce rate is over 50% in the US. For 2nd marriages, it’s even worse! If you’re in your second marriage and you’re seeing repeat problems that have you worried it’s going to end like your first, this is […]

I recently had a client ask, “Why do I need to feel sad anyway?” Cue my lecture on emotions: Because emotions are your experience of life. Without them, everything would feel, well… flat. Emotions are a sign that things have meaning. Feeling sad is a sign that something… such as a beloved person, pet, place, thing… […]

We have thoughts about everything we see, hear, taste, smell, touch, perceive or imagine. And we’re only aware of a fraction of them. Since our thoughts create our emotions, it can be tricky when we don’t know what our thoughts are. I used to get upset every time my husband was upset… and I didn’t […]

Ugh… If I had to choose the ugliest, most painful emotion for me, it would be shame. It shows up easily and quickly, like a Spring shower in Oregon. It’s heavy like an anchor and drowns my heart.  It fills my head with lead and I collapse in on myself like a wilting flower. The […]

And what’s stopping you? Maybe nothing! Maybe you’ve attained the status, goal, career, business, dream life you’ve always wanted! If so, CONGRATULATIONS!! I’m celebrating with you! But if not… Why haven’t you done the things you’ve wanted to? Have you tried and you “sucked at it”, so you’re done? Have you given it up as […]

Your own words cause you more pain. Other people’s words are like salt in your self-inflicted wounds.  The less you cut yourself down with negative self-talk, the less other people’s words can hurt you. So, how DO you talk to yourself? Do you call yourself names? Do you berate yourself? Do you deflect compliments? Do […]

Nothing! Last week, I taught you about building a Bridge of Thoughts to take you from your current way of believing to a new & improved way! I taught you how to go from “everybody hates me” to “everybody loves me” and oh man… people really resist the idea of intentionally believing THAT thought! They ask: Why […]